The ability to manage the terror barrier is largely what sets those that are living a life of their dreams apart from those that are steeped in mediocrity and unhappiness. It’s not that successful people “get all the breaks” or “have it easy.” Sure, there is a wide disparity in the backgrounds and circumstances of people, but the real reason people are able to reach a life of fulfillment is that they are able to break through the terror barrier. It’s not that successful and wealthy people don’t have challenges or don’t have fears. Of course, they have challenges. Of course, they have fears. It’s just that they are able to work through those challenges and fears and move forward in pursuit of a better life. “Do it afraid” is an expression with valuable meaning: Every now and then you have to do things you fear in order to move forward. If you do things afraid, I guarantee your life will change.
There are plenty of people of privilege who throw away all of their advantages and fall into a life of poverty and discontent. These are the individuals that make the decision to stay locked behind their terror barrier. They have not been able to overcome this obstacle and get out of their comfort zone and make the most of the gifts they have been given. We all have specials skills and talents that help determine our purpose in life. What we need to do in order to unleash these gifts to the world is to face and conquer our fears. The terror barrier is a threshold that we must learn to cross if we are to get ourselves on the path toward a life of fulfillment.
We stay in our comfort zone, because it is safe, it is familiar, and it is naturally comfortable. If you think about it, just how comfortable can you remain before you start to have negative consequences, before it actually hurts you tremendously? It is not surprising that we carry on this way and take refuge in our comfort zone if you consider the fact that we are conditioned to think along these lines from childhood. We are molded from uniqueness into conformity at a very early age and tend to go through life on automatic pilot. Yes, this might be comfortable, but it is also a very unfulfilling way to live.
There are a large number of people that are unwilling to undergo even the remotest amount of pain in pursuit of a goal. I would argue that this approach, in the long run, is more dangerous, as it results in even greater pain later on. Experiencing a bit of pain as you branch out is not only normal, but also a good motivator to get you up and going. Pain will often lead to growth and development. You are probably familiar with the expression “to light a fire” under someone. Well, this has become cliché, but the reality is that many of us need to turn up the heat a little bit in order to set the wheels of change in motion.